My boyfriend has a small penis – What can I do?

You’ve been waiting for him your entire life and it seems nothing can prevent both of you from being happy. But, the size of his penis is about to ruin your relationship.

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Published 23.05.2019|Last edited 11.06.2019

When sexual tension rises in a new relationship, it becomes harder and harder to fake orgasm. Now, every time you’re about to end up in his bedroom, a sexual desire fades away fast.

If you’re married and you’re still not ready to accept his small penis, your sex life can be ruined to ashes. Does any of these sentences sound familiar to you?

Then read on to find out how you can improve your sex life by helping your man to increase his penis size.


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Is his penis really small?

It’s important for each woman to know why some men have small dicks. Before you judge them, think about women with small breast. It’s not a man’s fault that he has a micropenis.

The biggest mistake most women make when they find out about the small size of the penis is destroying his identity.

This usually happens because women are unaware of several important things.

First of all, women should know the average penis size. Just because your ex has a bigger dick doesn’t mean your current boyfriend has a smaller one.

A research that involved 15 521 men revealed that the average penis length is 13.12 cm (5.2 inches) while erect and 9.16 cm (3.6 inches) while flaccid.

The average penis circumference is 11.66 cm (4.6 inches) while erect and 9.31 cm (3.7 inches) while flaccid.

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On the other hand, a micropenis is a serious condition that’s diagnosed in baby boys.

If a baby boy has a smaller than 1.9 cm (.75 inch) penis, it means he has a micropenis. If not treated, men with micropenises have lowered fertility because of extremely low sperm count.

Why is his penis so small?

Hypogonadism is the major cause of micropenis.

The inconspicuous penis isn’t as small as micropenis, yet it appears smaller than average penis length. Why? There are a few small penis causes:

Trapped penis

It happens when a circumcision doesn’t heal the right way. The penis gets trapped beneath the healed skin after the circumcision.

Apart from having issues in the bedroom, men with a trapped penis can suffer from urinary dysfunction.

Webbed penis

It’s the result of the scrotum skin being attached too high on the dick.

It changes the angle at which the dick usually rests, making it appear smaller than normal.

Penis stretchers or cosmetic surgery help to fix this problem.

Buried penis

The excess skin accumulation around the penis causes buried penis, which can be hidden beneath the scrotum, abdomen, or thigh.

Men with buried penis tend to have trouble with sexual arousal.

Of course, there might be other reasons why men have small penises.

Anyway, the next time you say something like, “My boyfriend has a small penis so I should probably break up with him,” think about how much you love him.

After all, there are many ways to solve his problem.

What’s it like to have sex with a guy who has a small penis?

If he is your first sex partner, you might not even realize how big his penis should be.

However, if you had sex with different guys in the past, you might feel a huge difference between having sex with a guy with a small penis and with a guy with a big dick.

Foreplay is incredibly important, when it comes to sex. However, if you do want to experience any sensations and feelings, it’s better to skip this part or keep it short.

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Most women fake orgasm, especially if they love their men and don’t want to disappoint them. However, you shouldn’t even try to fake orgasm.

A guy with a small dick should try extra hard to make you scream or squirt begging for more. Let him do it.

If you find this interesting, you should also read our article “How to get a bigger dick (in depth guide)“.

Believe it or not, it’s possible to get pleasure out of such intercourse – but in rare cases.

It’s important to be honest with your partner and encourage him to try different techniques in the bed. Most importantly, make sure you support him when he does his best to make his dick bigger.

For instance, if he wears a penis stretcher, don’t make fun out of it. Help him to put the stretcher on. It might sound strange, but why not consider it as a small penis treatment?

Penis size matters but it’s not everything

When it comes to sex, penis size matters but it’s not everything. Not every woman gets sexual satisfaction from penetration as many women don’t orgasm from it.

It might just be your sexual preference to have sex with a well-endowed guy – particularly if you strive to achieve vaginal orgasms.

A research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that females who experience more vaginal orgasms than clitoral prefer bigger penises, as they get sexual satisfaction from penetration.

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Clitoral orgasms can bring as much pleasure as vaginal ones do, though. You can achieve it during masturbation or oral sex.

Moreover, it’s important to pay attention to a guy’s erection. Your boyfriend’s erection might not reach its full potential so his penis might appear smaller than it actually is.

What will win – love or penis size?

Is it possible to build a long-term relationship and have a great sex life with a guy who has a micropenis? Of course, yes.

We live in a modern world full of unbelievable possibilities. If your man doesn’t recognize the problem, honest communication is a must. Avoid fighting and respect his point of view.

While you can agree on having sex that doesn’t require a penis, why not consider penis enlargement?

If you truly love your man, his penis size shouldn’t ruin your relationship. There are plenty of ways your partner can pleasure you with his mouth, hands, and even small penis.

There are many sex toys to consider, as well. It’s up to you to decide what matters most to you – love or his penis size.

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How to improve sex with a boyfriend who has a small penis

Keep in mind that the center of your sexual system is your clitoris, so regardless of his penis size, your partner can learn the techniques of clitoral stimulation to bring you to orgasm.

Both of you can watch fingering technique videos, for example. Learn together and have fun with it. If you crave deep penetration, you might take advantage of fisting or vibrator.

If you have a masturbation sleeve, ask your man to wear it while having sex. It’ll boost his girth, allowing you both to feel tons of new sensations.

Once your man put on a masturbation sleeve and a condom over it, try deep penetration. There are also dildos that he can put it over his dick for deeper penetration.

Unless you’re super dry, avoid all sorts of lubrication to better sex. This way you’ll feel more sensation. In order to improve penetration, squeeze your pelvic floor muscles.

Moreover, feel free to experiment with positions for more clitoral stimulation and friction.

If you want more information, you should also read “I have a small penis: 3 different ways to grow your dick“.

How to increase the size of his penis

While all those sex toys are helpful and they can jazz up your sex life, it’s best to focus on the ways to increase the size of his penis permanently.

Three general options

  • Surgical
  • Implants
  • Penis stretching

There’s a surgical way to do it, but this should be the last option in case non-surgical methods won’t bring any results.

Penis stretching, also known as manual stretching, is one of the ways to increase the girth or length of the penis.

Even though the results of manual stretching are typically minimal, you can still feel how his penis increases in size day by day.

Show your partner these exercises or even help him to do them regularly.

Stretching exercises

The warm-up before stretching exercises is essential. The aim is to gently reach 30-50% erection. Soak a towel in warm water and wrap a penis for at least 15 minutes.

Here are some stretching exercises you can try:

Ultimate stretching

This exercise helps to increase the penis length.

After a warm-up session, retract the foreskin and firmly grasp the phallus behind glans/head.

Pull the penis a little outwards to experience a significant stretch inside the shaft.

Try to hold it for 30 seconds and release. Do 3 to 4 reps.

If you experience any pain or discomfort, stop doing the exercise.

Thumb stretching

Retract the penis foreskin and firmly grasp your phallus behind glans/head, pulling it outwards.

Place a thumb at the penis base, using your other hand.

Pressing with the thumb down, pull in both directions simultaneously until you feel a slight stretch inside the shaft.

Hold it for 30 seconds and release. Do 4 to 7 reps.

Opposite stretching

Retract the penis foreskin and firmly grasp your phallus behind glans/head.

Grip the shaft between index finger and thumb with a standard ok-grip about one inch above the base.

Now, pull the right hand upwards and the left hand downwards to it.

As soon as you feel a slight stretch inside the shaft, hold for 20 seconds, and release.

A penis extender

If your man has no time for doing these exercises, there’s a device like a penis extender that offers better results with little effort.

Not to mention that it saves time and your man can use it during the day.

A penis extender is a device worn along the dick for a few hours or overnight to increase the penis size.

It typically features two rings – one sitting at the head and another one sitting at the flaccid penis base, with a traction device running along the penile shaft’s sides.

It’s possible to adjust springs that pull the shaft.

A penis extender helps to stretch the flaccid penis to get larger in size.

Depending on which penis extender your partner chooses, he should ensure it doesn’t cause any discomfort or pain.

The most popular penis extenders right now include JES Extender, ProExtender, X4 Labs, SizeGenetics and MaleEdge.

It’s important to consult a professional to choose the right extender. The wrong extender can interfere with daily life and trigger the pain.

If your boyfriend wears a correct extender, it won’t only help him make his dick bigger, but can also help to treat certain conditions, including Peyronie’s disease and prostate cancer.

A scientific review mentioned that even though the regular use of a penis extender helped to improve penile curvature in men suffering from Peyronie’s disease, a lot of patients were satisfied with their increased penis length.

The results greatly depend on how consistently your man uses a penis extender and which approach he takes when wearing it.

There are a wide variety of male enhancement products on the market and we have made our top picks here “Top 13 male enhancement products – The best way to grow your dick“.


In rare cases, men with a small penis or micropenis turn to penis enlargement surgery.

There are many side effects that can appear after penis augmentation surgery, so choose this option only after consulting several doctors.

There are three basic surgeries, such as widening the penis, lengthening the penis and the use of implants.

According to the American Urologic Association, both surgeries might be unsafe or ineffective for improving the length or thickness of the penis in men.

Moreover, these surgeries aren’t approved by any main medical organization.

The side effects of lengthening the penis include poor sensitivity, nerve damage, infections, and erection issues.

The biggest side effect of widening the penis is an uneven, bumpy, and lumpy penis. Plus, scarring can leave your man with a shorter dick than he has now.

The Final Word

Most women say the size of his dick matters, but what about love?

If your partner is someone you really love and you see your future with him, I’d encourage you to be patient and invest in your relationship.

No matter the penis size, a sex life can be improved if two of you love each other.

Don’t blame him for having a small penis; help him to cope with this problem. Start with penis stretching exercises and a penis stretcher and see the results.

If you help your significant other to solve such an intimate issue, he’ll love you forever.

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Dylan Smith

Dylan Smith

I am an American urologist working at Boston Medical Center. I have a mission and that is to help and guide men to grow a bigger penis.

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